DD/LG: Terms and Language

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When trying to learn more about DD/LG, you’ll come across many different abbreviations and terms. Many of these will be unfamiliar, and it can make your reading a little difficult until you understand them. In this article, we aim to go over both some of the more basic terms and the ways language might be used in a DD/LG relationship.

Abbreviations and Terms

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  • DD/LG: Daddy Dom/Little Girl
  • DD/LB: Daddy Dom/Little Boy
  • MD/LG: Mommy Dom/Little Girl
  • MD/LB: Mommy Dom/Little Boy

These are the four main types of DD/LG relationship. They are referring to the particular set up in your own situation. While they are all interchangeable, DD/LG will commonly be used to describe all of them, so even if something talks about DD/LG it can still be applied to any other configuration.

  • BDSM: BDSM stands for Bondage, Discipline, Dominance and Submission, and Sadomasochism. The term doesn’t cover everything that could be considered BDSM, and there are many kinks and fetishes that might fall slightly outside these terms but still be considered part of the overall umbrella. DD/LG falls within BDSM.
  • Kink or Fetish: These both describe particular sexual practises or fantasies, which wouldn’t be commonly found in a vanilla relationship. Members of the BDSM community will frequently explore these kinks or fetishes through scenes.
  • Scenes: A scene is the standard term for any scenario in which BDSM will be involved. Each scene will usually be at least loosely planned in advance, and clear boundaries will be in place so that both partners know what is allowed and what isn’t. During the scene, all involved are free to explore any kinks or fetishes they like, but once the scene is over, everything returns to normal.
  • Safe Word: A safe word is standard practise during BDSM scenes. The submissive partner chooses a word that wouldn’t usually be used during a sexual setting (often colours are chosen). If they say this word at any point during the scene, then everything stops immediately. This sets a clear escape should things become too much. Sometimes, non-verbal safe sounds or signs are used for situations where the submissive partner will be gagged.
  • Contract: A contract is usually drawn up between all involved parties in BDSM scenes or relationships. These tend to be less formal for just a scene but can be lengthy written documents for a full relationship. The contract covers all activities that both parties are interested in and sets clear rules on what is and isn’t allowed. All parties are expected to trust each other to follow the contract to make the scenes work and let everyone enjoy themselves without worries. Sometimes, contracts will also include what will happen if someone wishes to end the relationship or scene.
  • Safe, Sane and Consensual: Safe, sane and consensual is the mantra practised by all good BDSM participants. Any scenes created need to be safe and everyone involved should know how things are going to work and what the limits are. Any scenes should be sane, considering the limitations of other people’s bodies and being in a clear state of mind, so you can stop things if you need to. Most importantly, everyone involved should consent to everything that you plan to do.

These cover the majority of general BDSM terms that you might come across. While there are more specific terms for certain sexual practises, for DD/LG, these should be the main ones you need to be aware of.

  • Little: A Little is the LG/LB part of the relationship. Littles take on the age and the personality of a child and love receiving attention from their Daddy/Mommy. There’s no age a little can be, and they don’t have to be the same age all the time. It’s completely up to them how they act and feel while exploring their Little persona.
  • Middle: A Middle is just like a Little but tends to be adopting the persona of a teenager rather than a younger child.
  • CG: CG stands for Caregiver. This is another term for the Daddy or Mommy in the relationship. Some dominant partners may not enjoy being called Daddy or Mommy (and the reasons are completely unimportant), so instead, they refer to themselves as CGs. You may often see CG/LB or CG/LG used in place of DD/LG.
  • Little Space: Little Space is the headspace adopted by someone who is taking on the role of a Little. While in Little Space, your Little is completely free to explore and pursue whatever thought processes he or she likes and may take on many characteristics of a child. This can manifest itself in language, behaviour, or even which activities he or she enjoys.
  • Headspace: Headspace is the frame of mind someone adopts when taking on the persona of another character during any roleplay relationship. This can be a child, an adult, an animal, or even a fantasy character. While exploring headspace, people will typically be much more vulnerable. Thus, it’s important that any roleplay is safe, and the person in the headspace is considered in any decisions about the direction the scene will go.
  • Little Age: Little Age is simply the age your Little decides they are. This doesn’t have to always be the same, and many Littles will have a range of ages they enjoy exploring, simply deciding on the day how old they wish to be.
  • Punishments: Punishments are an important part of DD/LG relationships. Littles will typically have a set of rules that their Daddy or Mommy is enforcing and breaking these rules will carry punishments. It’s important that these punishments reflect the severity of the rule breaking. Another key consideration in punishments is whether or not your relationship has a sexual element, as this can completely change the use of things like spanking.
  • Rules: Most DD/LG relationships will involve a set of rules laid out by the dominant partner. These might include things like a set bedtime, household rituals such as brushing teeth, or even things like making the Little prepare meals for the dominant. The rules should be set out in advance so that your Little knows what is expected of her, and unlike other BDSM relationships, the rules should be set with an aim of improving the Little as a person, just like a real child.
  • Aftercare: During any BDSM scene, both partners often expose themselves to a very vulnerable way. Aftercare is a session that happens after the scene has ended to help nurture and comfort each other once you have returned to your regular personalities. This can have great benefits, as it makes it clear that what happens during the scene isn’t bleeding out into your regular life, as well as helping each side feel safe and secure in the relationship as they know their partner cares for them.

These are some of the more specific terms that refer to DD/LG and things that you will have to consider during your relationship or scenes. Not all of them will apply all the time, but it’s always good to have a working knowledge of as many things as possible, so if they do come up, you know how to proceed.

DD/LG Language

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The language used in a DD/LG relationship is much harder to put a definition on. For some, things might not change at all, and aside from the safe words, everything will be communicated in exactly the same way as a normal interaction. Most of the time though, both Littles and their Caregivers will fall into different styles of language.

These aren’t the same from everyone, and it might take some time to feel out exactly how things will work in your relationship. For Littles, common examples include childish words like:

  • Stuffies: A common term Littles use for stuffed toys.
  • Blankies:
  • Sippy: A toddlers sippy cup.
  • Paci/Binkie:
  • Jammies: Pyjamas
  • Nom Noms: Food/Dinner

The list can literally go on forever, and each Little will develop their own favourites for different objects and activities. These don’t necessarily have to be defined in advance to their Caregivers. Sometimes, it can be a lot of fun to learn the language of your little and adapt to their needs.

Caregivers can typically go in a couple of different directions, and it will really depend on your relationship. Generally, this is something that should be discussed before the relationship begins as it can have a big impact on the enjoyment of the relationship for everyone involved. Some Caregivers will stick to a supportive and encouraging style of language, treating their Littles just as they treat a real child. This can include feigning interest in things they find exciting, talking in a soothing voice, or trying to explain things simply.

Other caregivers may be much more authoritative in their language. These kinds of relationships might lean closer to other forms of BDSM and will generally be more sexual in nature. It will include a specific way of delivering orders or commands to their submissive and usually more stricter punishments for disobeying them. While this might not seem particularly appropriate for a DD/LG relationship, some people love it, so knowing exactly how you want to talk to your Little is a very important consideration.

What’s in a Name?

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The final consideration of language in a DD/LG relationship is what you call each other! While most Littles will be referred to by name, or even a cute nickname like princess or sweetheart, it can be a bit more difficult to find an appropriate name for your Caregiver. Some people don’t like the idea of calling their partner's Daddy or Mommy (Little’s just as much as Caregivers), so you’ll need to find another solution. Some like to go the more affectionate route of papa or dada. Others like to go in a completely different direction, liking names such as Mister, Sir, Senpai or even master. This is something you’ll need to discuss with your Little, and it may take a little trial and error to find something appropriate that you both enjoy!

We hope this covers most of the terms you might have found confusing or alien when it comes to DD/LG. This certainly isn’t an exhaustive list, and there are many more specific ones out there. Be sure to do your research so that you know exactly what you’re talking about when getting into a new relationship.

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